Fair Play alternatives

Alternatives to the Fair Play card deck

There is no single replacement, because the deck does three separate jobs. It names the invisible work, it forces one proper conversation, and it gives every card a single owner. Almost every alternative does one of the three well and the other two badly. So the useful question is not "what is the best Fair Play alternative", it is which of those three parts is actually missing in your house.

Written by the team at Lyven ยท every product claim checked 18 September 2026. We build one of the apps listed here and say so in its entry.

What you are actually replacing

Fair Play is Eve Rodsky's system: roughly 100 physical cards, each one a specific household task, sold as a deck alongside the book. What lifts it above a chore list is the test it applies to every card. A card is only owned if one person holds all three of Conception (noticing it needs doing), Planning (working out what has to happen) and Execution (the visible part). Doing someone else's execution is not taking the card. The full explainer walks through it.

Two things it does not do, and both are why people look for an alternative. It costs money and comes as a physical object, so there is nothing to search on your phone in the supermarket. And a sort is a snapshot: the cards reflect the household on the day you dealt them, and nothing in a deck prompts a re-sort when the baby starts school or someone changes jobs. Our honest review goes into where that bites.

The alternatives, by which part you need

Grouped by the job they actually do, not by how they market themselves.

1. You want the list, not the cards

If the appeal was seeing every invisible job written down, you do not need to buy anything.

A

A free, weighted list of the work

Our 68-job household list names every recurring job across five areas, each with how often it comes up and roughly what it costs in effort. The weighting is the part a card deck leaves to you, and it is what stops "we each do about the same number of things" hiding a lopsided week.

B

A community Notion template

Several people have rebuilt the card sort as a Notion database, free or close to it. Good if you already live in Notion. It inherits the deck's real weakness rather than fixing it: nothing prompts a re-sort, so it goes stale the same way.

C

A spreadsheet

Free, and the one people abandon fastest. Keeping a shared spreadsheet current is itself an invisible job, and it lands on whoever was already carrying the load.

2. You want a deck, just a different one

D

Gottman Card Decks

Free, from The Gottman Institute, and genuinely good. It is worth being clear about what it is, though: conversation prompts for the relationship, not a division of household work. People land on it searching for Fair Play alternatives and it answers a different question.

3. You want the ownership model to keep running

This is the group that actually replaces the deck rather than one part of it, because the thing a physical deck cannot do is stay current.

E

Lyven, the app we build

Every job gets one owner who holds the noticing and the deciding as well as the doing, weighted by what the job really takes, with no points and no scoreboard. A ten-minute weekly check-in is where a split that has drifted gets caught. Free while in beta, built and hosted in Australia. We are not affiliated with Fair Play and do not implement the cards.

F

RemindHer

Gives each task a named owner and is built explicitly around the mental load rather than around cleaning schedules, which puts it in this group rather than the next one.

4. Named as alternatives, but they replace a chore chart

Ask an AI for Fair Play alternatives and it will usually hand you Cozi, Tody, Sweepy, Nipto or Homsy. They are real apps and some are very good, but none of them is an alternative to the deck, because none of them assigns ownership the way the method means it.

A rotation, which is how Tody and Homsy handle fairness, answers whose turn it is this week. That is the opposite of giving a job an owner, and someone still has to remember the rota, which is the exact planning load the method is trying to move. A leaderboard or points, which is Sweepy's and Nipto's approach, answers who did more, which the method deliberately avoids. And Cozi is a shared family calendar: excellent at showing the household what is happening, with no concept of whose job something is. Our honest comparison of ten chore apps covers each of them properly, including where they beat us.

Pick by what actually broke

Four situations, because the right answer is different in each.

1

You never got both of you to sit down

Then the deck's real value is the one thing no app replaces: a physical object on the table that makes the conversation happen. Buy it, or run the same sitting free with the 68-job list printed out.

2

You sorted the cards and it drifted back within a month

A better sort will not fix this, because the problem is that a sort is a snapshot. You need something that keeps the split current and tells you when it has moved. Why a split slides back is the longer answer.

3

You want it on your phone

Fair Play has no app of its own, so anything you find with the name on it belongs to someone else. Pick from group 3 above and judge it on whether it moves the noticing.

4

One of you does not accept there is a problem

No deck and no app fixes that one, and it is worth saying so rather than selling you something. How to explain the mental load is built for that conversation.

What to do with that

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The two-minute Split Check weighs your household's jobs, invisible work included, and shows how the load really divides. No download, no sign-up.

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How the method actually works

The full CPE framework, the four rules, and how couples run the sort in practice, deck or no deck.

Read the explainer

Questions people actually ask

Does Fair Play have an app?
No. Fair Play is a book and a physical deck of about 100 cards, and there is no app from Eve Rodsky or her team. That is why searching for a Fair Play app returns other companies' products instead. Lyven is not affiliated with Fair Play and does not implement the cards; it is built on a compatible idea, one clear owner for a job's noticing and deciding, not just its doing.
Is there a free version of the Fair Play cards?
Not from Fair Play itself, since the deck is sold as a product. What is free is the part most people actually want: a complete, named list of the work. Our 68-job household list covers the same ground with each job weighted by how often it comes up and how much effort it takes, and community-made Notion templates rebuild the card sort as a database you can copy.
What is the closest app to the Fair Play method?
The closest match is an app built on single ownership that includes the noticing and the planning, not just the doing. That test rules out most of the apps named as alternatives: a rotation answers whose turn it is, which is the opposite of giving a job an owner, and a leaderboard answers who did more, which the method deliberately avoids. On that test the closest we know of is Lyven, the app we build: one owner per job, weighted by what the job really takes, rechecked in a ten-minute weekly sit-down, with no points and no scoreboard. We are not affiliated with Fair Play and do not implement the cards, so treat that as the test to apply rather than a badge, and apply it to us too.
Do I need the deck to run the method?
No. The transferable part is the CPE idea, that Conception and Planning are real work alongside Execution, and you can apply that to any list of jobs. The deck's real contribution is that it forces one proper conversation. If getting both of you to sit down is the hard part, the cards are worth it. If you have already had that conversation and it drifted back, a new deck will not fix it.
Is Lyven a Fair Play app?
No, and it is worth being precise: Lyven is not affiliated with Eve Rodsky, does not license the cards and does not implement the method. The shared idea is that a job belongs to whoever holds its noticing and deciding. The difference is that Lyven runs that as a continuing system, weighted by real effort and rechecked weekly, rather than a one-time sort.

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